It's midnight. You're exhausted. The day is done, the house is quiet, there is nothing left that needs doing and your brain has decided that right now is the ideal time to: Replay a conversation from three days ago. Mentally draft an email you'll actually write tomorrow. Run through everything that could go wrong next week. Catalogue the things you forgot to do today. Solve a problem that doesn't need solving until Thursday. You're not choosing this. It's not useful. And the

There is a thought you have regularly that you know, on some level, isn't entirely accurate — and yet it runs your life anyway. I'm not good enough. Something bad is about to happen. I'm a burden. I'll never get past this. People can see through me. You've argued with it. You've tried to replace it with something more positive. You've reminded yourself of evidence to the contrary. And still, when it shows up — which it does, reliably, often at the worst moments — it lands wit

You've always been this way. Thorough. Detail-oriented. The person who catches what everyone else misses, who would rather redo something than submit work that's less than excellent. These qualities have served you well — academically, professionally, in the eyes of people who rely on you. So when someone suggests your perfectionism might be a problem, the reaction is usually resistance: This is just who I am. Without it, I'd be mediocre. Here's the question worth sitting wit

If you've ever had cancer — or are currently in treatment — you probably know this feeling without needing a name for it. The scan is scheduled. Somewhere in the days or weeks before it, something shifts: sleep gets harder, every twinge becomes evidence, and a low hum of dread settles in that you can't reason your way out of. This is scanxiety — the intense anxiety cancer patients and survivors feel in anticipation of follow-up scans, imaging, or results. For many, it's the h

From the outside, everything looks fine. You're productive. You meet your deadlines. You show up for people. You're reliable, capable, often the person others lean on. By most external measures, you are doing well. But on the inside, there is a near-constant hum of worry that doesn't switch off. A mind that is always scanning for what could go wrong. A feeling that you are one mistake away from everything falling apart. A deep exhaustion from working so hard to maintain an ap

A Life Built on Resilience and Growth Before I became a psychologist, I was a gymnast and a cellist. Sports and music taught me discipline, focus, and how to thrive under pressure—but also how to cope with setbacks and losses. I learned early that strength isn’t about never falling; it’s about getting back up, learning, and moving forward. That mindset has carried me through every chapter of my life, including some of the hardest ones. From Performance to Purpose I pursued p

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